I don't have any friends and little family?

What does your dad think? Doesn't he get mad at her talking to a strange guy all day? I would. This is a hard one. I can have panic attacks too, but I try not too, because I hate them. Anyway, is there any way your dad can talk to her? Maybe even have the entire family sit down, like an intervention, and talk to your mom and tell her how you all feel. I get the feeling that it's going to take everyone in the family to get together and really confront your mom at one time and have a serious talk with her. Your dad needs to stop being lazy and all of you need to have a talk. Maybe even see a professional counselor.